Stubborn or Strong?

I am well aware that often times I can be stubborn.  I know I'm not perfect and there are things about me that I need to work on and my stubbornness is one of those things.  But, I am working on it everyday because I am a work in progress....
I have said before that I sometimes "over-think" things.  I do this as a safety mechanism to protect myself.  To make sure I don't get hurt.  More often than not this method does not work and I get hurt anyway.  So shouldn't it be evident to me that I need to "re-think" that as well? *sigh*....So much I need to work on, so little time. lol
I sit here today unable to sleep because of my over-thoughts.....wondering if the situations that came to me over this weekend were handled correctly.....
I think about the first thing that happened Christmas Eve.  When someone contacted me to approach me about something that was COMPLETELY NOT HER BUSINESS.  I tried to handle it one way and she obviously mistook my calmness for weakness so I had to handle it the other, "bitch you better move around" way....She wasn't happy about that approach, but if you continue to taunt a resting lioness she WILL get up and CLAW YOU!!!  I don't think I handled that initially the way I should have because when the conversation started I should have just straight told her to mind her business, but I was trying to be nice until she kept pushing and pushing (some people never know how to quit when they're ahead) .  So while she kept pushing the door it opened and  she fell RIGHT IN!! So I feel I handled the situation correctly then and was being STRONG not stubborn.  Because in this instance there is nothing I need to do to redeem myself since I wasn't at fault, so I'm not being STUBBORN.....
Now, the next issue....a complete misunderstanding...something I again had no fault in. Now, you may say, "Damn Rae, you sure.  You can't always be right."  Not saying I'm always right. I just know that in this instance there was nothing I could have done to prevent what happened because I had no knowledge of it before hand.  In this instance, there is a matter of heart.....So I may be being STUBBORN not STRONG because I don't want to be hurt anymore than I already am.  Maybe I need to be the one to reach out and find out exactly what will better this situation.  But, something is telling me that I've done enough.  Something is telling me that there is nothing more left to say.  Something is telling me to just let it go....I REALLY don't want to do that!! Maybe the fact that it bothers me so much I haven't rested or that my heart feels like someone is SQUEEZING IT with their bare hands means that I'm being STUBBORN not STRONG....I may be letting pride stand up when I should be telling pride to go sit it's tail down somewhere.  I don't know, not sure, just know I wish things weren't where they are now.........

I thank and appreciate all who will read. Peace.