Ride or Die..........

People may say and have said many things about me....but there are a few things people may say about me that when/if you hear it, you can KNOW they're a damn lie.  Things like:

1.  She doesn't love her children

2.  She talks too much

3.  She's nosy

4.  She is DISLOYAL

5.  She's ugly.........LMAO, ok they can say that and they may not be lying.  Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and while I don't think I'm ugly, someone else may think I am.  (That's a whole other topic; "Do ugly people know they're ugly?" lol)

But seriously, #4....if someone came to you and told you, "Raven has no loyalty.  She's never has anyone's back."  Please, for me, tell them to GTFOHWTBS......

I consider myself a "ride or die" type of woman.  If you're my friend, my family or my man....if you hold any of those titles in my life, WE'RE STRAIGHT! I GOT YOU!!! LBVS

Especially, if your name starts with a "D" and I tell you damn near EVERY DAY how much I love you.  ESPECIALLY if I carried you in my stomach for 7 1/2 to 9 months (my baby boy was kinda anxious to arrive, lol)......

Now the type of loyalty I have, I don't expect people to reciprocate.  I'm a little extra with mine, so I understand if someone else can't be as down as I am.  I have to remember my Mama's words, "Everyone does NOT think like you Raven."  

I say I'm extra, because I feel if you hurt someone I love....I don't care WHO you are, I'm not pleased with you a bit.  Not to the grade school/high school stuff like, "you can't be her friend cuz I'm not her friend".  I may not get in the middle of your beef with my loved one, but you can put your money on whose side I'm on. RIGHT OR WRONG.

I mean that too.  I will roll with someone I love even if they are wrong as two left shoes.....I will tell them, "Now you know you're wrong as hell.  But I'm with you.".......

It doesn't necessarily mean that if you have a problem with someone I love we will have beef.  I will be civil/polite/congenial even, but you will NEVER have the loyalty/love/respect I give my loved one.  You also, will know not to speak ill or otherwise about that person in my presence.  I may not tell you that verbatim, but if you're smart you'll already know this.  If you're not so smart and I have to tell you to not to speak about my loved one, then you can consider your self READ. LOL

I had to develop my loyalty the hard way.  When I was younger, I gave my loyalty to some of the wrong people.  But, I also gave it to some of the right people who are still very deserving of it today (lifelong loves/family/friends).....I had a friend my Mama ABSOLUTELY COULD NOT STAND.  She always told me that this person was a snake, was jealous of me and never had my best interest at heart.  However, my Mama let her come by the house, let me hang out with her and was cordial to her when she saw her.  She was right about her, of course, lol...but I had to find that out on my own and the HARD way....That's how I learned how to handle people who were cancers to my loved ones, by watching her.  I think it has worked out well for me,  I have good friends and just recently let go of a not so good friend without incident.  If I do have enemies, they don't affect me, because I don't acknowledge them.....

I thank and appreciate all who will read.  Peace.