I've only had a few REAL relationships in my lifetime. Out of those relationships I've learned MORE THAN valuable life lessons. I've learned what to do/say/feel/think and what NOT to do/say/feel/think. At the end of the real relationships I've found that there is a common occurrence. I LET GO AND DON'T LOOK BACK.....
That's always my way of coping or "getting over".....I've sulked and cried and moped, but never did I go back and say, let's try this again. He would have to be the one to do that. And on more than one occasion, I may have backtracked because he came back promising a change, but when the change didn't come....I'm out once again. *kanye shrug*
I don't think it's because I don't care about the relationship. I know how hurt I was each time I had to let go. I know how my heart would feel like it was sitting in the chair beside me instead of in my chest where it belongs. I honestly think it's my stubborn "only child" thing. I won't beg anyone to love me, I feel if you can't see for yourself the GOOD ASS woman I am, why should I waste my breathe? Someone else will come along who does. Even if someone doesn't come along, oh well. I was born & raised by myself and will die by myself. #bigwhoop LBS
I am SO amazed by people who feel the need to hold on to something that is OBVIOUSLY not there. Sometimes there is no "going back"....Sometimes something is done/said/shown that there is no coming back from without the affected party throwing the transgression up later for spite.
I am also amazed by people who say they've "moved on" but continually berate/talk about/contact the party they "claim" to have moved on from. I always feel that there is someone for everyone and that just because this person wasn't right for me doesn't mean he's not right for the next woman. Why should I hold on to someone I don't want? Why should I talk bad about him? If I don't want him, I should set him free to be with the next person. Why be selfish? That also applies to a man who hasn't done me wrong, but that I'm just not attracted to. I'm sure everyone may have been in this situation at one time or another.....This person is VERY nice and by all intents and purposes you all should be a match, but the two of you just don't "click"....why "fake" it because he is who you "should" be with and not who you "want" to be with? Life is TOO short to be unhappy or unsatisfied. (I've learned that the hard way over these three short years.)
I have seen relationships where one person claims to have let go, but REALLY hasn't....and are REALLY bitter about the break up. It's really something for a soap opera. It makes me sad (and somewhat irritated) to see one party is acting a fool, causing drama and bashing the other party all in the name of....."But, I'm done with his/her ass." My favorite irritation is the woman who knows he has 12 kids and she has baby number 13 and then ALL OF THE SUDDEN he's a no good ass daddy. Ummmm, HELLO did you not notice the relationship with the first dozen or so or the baby mama/'s....OH, I know....You thought you were DIFFERENT. Your coochie was the sunshine that turned him into Ward Cleaver?!?!?!
Then it's the dude who finds his soulmate with a woman with 8 kids, 8 baby daddy's who's in the club every other day. Then when he makes her wifey she has baby number 9 and makes him stay home with it while she goes BACK to the club to find baby daddy number 10....So dude, you thought you REALLY had the "magic stick" to turn her into June Cleaver?!?!?!
Shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiitttttttttttttttttt!!!! *Clay Davis from The Wire voice* LOL
Swear if people would open their EYES before they open their pants, there would be less drama and controversy. It's sometimes laughable to watch, sometimes sad when it goes to far. Either way, I would plead for the injured party to LET GO of the bitterness/anger/hate. If you say you're moving on DO THAT!!! I am telling you from personal experience...........LIFE IS TOO SHORT!!!!!
I thank and appreciate all who will read. Peace.
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